Can someone help me, i need help talking to this girl i like, But i have social anxiety disorder,?

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June 18, 2019 / By Adelphie
Question: Hello, This is my first post so I don't have a clue where I am suppose to post this, so sorry if I put it in the wrong section, My question is how do I start a conversation with this girl? Details: Highschool Student Im a guy I have a really bad social anxiety disorder, I am a funny person if I can actually talk to someone. Don't know how to start a conversation with a girl. Extra info: Ok so, because of my social anxiety I am pretty nervous to really talk to anyone, I am kind of an aquard person since I don't really talk much. so I have a very minum amount of friends, I am a really quiet person, except for when I am talking to my parents or something, I am actually a really funny person and talkative, around really just my parents. My problem is there is a girl in 2 of my classes that I don't really talk to that much, that I like. , 1 where she sits on the opposite side of the room, and another she sits right next to me(assign seats) The class where she sits right next to me I get enough guts to ask her questions maybe on a homework assignment, and she helps me, but then other then that I kinda just sit there quietly. I would like to maybe ask her a question, maybe like how is your day going or something like that, but because my anxiety, all I can think about is what if she thinks I am weird, (what if she thinks I am annoying, what if her friend that sits behind me laughs, what if, what if,) Which I know I don't annoy her because whenever I ask her about my homework she is really nice and sweet. Its just all in my head. But i literally can not talk to her i get really twitchy and nervous around her. And I don't want to make it obvious I like her incase she doesn't want to talk to me you no? Back to original question, so how do I start a conversation and possibley becomes friends with this girl I think is really pretty and has a fun personality. Also how do I keep that conversation going to maybe actually become friends with her, or maybe even girls in general. Thank you soap, and yes i have tried many different medication, also that is my other problem since i don't really talk to her that much i feel like if i complimant her i will sound like a creep?
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Teige Teige | 5 days ago
It's ok to have anxiety! But you can't let that stop you from becoming a more confident person. I was like you. I would always shy away from guys. But then I was told that I wasted all my time being afraid and because of that I let amazing opportunity slip away. You don't want to wake up in the future and have regrets for not talking to that girl. (As Corny as it is.) You need to look at the good and not the bad in yourself. Your a sweet guy! Who just needs to be told your truly an amazing, kind heart guy. Don't let your own self worth be so low. I have a feeling you have some quality that guys these days no longer value. Just talk to her. Say " Hey! How's your day going?" And just smile. When the conversation is over say something like. "it was nice talking to you. Have a good day." There's not much that could go wrong if you just listen to what she says. I believe you can do it!!! You just have to see the good! Best wishes. :)
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Teige Originally Answered: Writing a paper for colleg on social anxiety disorder, looking for some insight from people with this disorder?
well..... i'm only 13 so i don't know if i'll be much help, but whatever i'll give it a try. anxiety disorder could happen when a tragedy or accident occurs in your life and you can't do anything about it. i have this because i had anorexia and was bullied so now i have anxiety about trusting people. if you get so worked up, then it could lead to a panic/anxiety attack. they're not fun let me tell you that. you could hyper-ventilate or your body could quiver a little bit. hope this helped even a little bit. good luck with your paper.
Teige Originally Answered: Writing a paper for colleg on social anxiety disorder, looking for some insight from people with this disorder?
Feel free to message me if you have specific questions. Basically, I know in my head that nothing bad will happen but my body still reacts to situations. For example, if I'm going out to meet friends in a restaurant. We're meeting at 8pm. I'm running late, and I get a text to say they've gone inside and taken a table. I start to feel nervous. I'm gonna have to walk into the restaurant on my own. Maybe I should just turn around and go home? I get to the restaurant, and I try and look through the window to see if I can see them. I don't. My heart starts to pound, and my anxiety levels go up. My head is telling me I'm gonna look like an idiot walking in there and trying to find them. I want to go home. I walk back and forth outside the window to try and see them, but I don't. This can go on for five minutes. Eventually, I will take a deep breath and walk into the restaurant. I don't see my friends straight away. In my head the whole restaurant is staring at me thinking I'm stupid for just standing there. I have to walk around half the restaurant before I see the right table and sit down. Again, in my head the restaurant is thinking who is this idiot who doesn't know which table to go to? I feel humiliated. Like I have made a fool out of myself. Does my anxiety make sense? NOOO. I don't think it does myselfl, but in the moment the feelings are real and I cannot make the anxiety stop. It's not being awkward or shy amongst people. I can be in a crowd of thousands and be okay. It's the FEAR of making a fool out of yourself. The fear will then make you blush, tremble etc, and your fear of making a fool out of yourself is now real, as it is displaying a physical reaction. The bad circle has started as the next time you are in the same situation I'll be scared of blushing again rather than reacting to the fear, if that makes sense? I could go on forever. Message me if you want.

Phelim Phelim
You can first try practising in front of a mirror or something. If she is really sweet and nice she will not judge or make fun of you in any way trust me. You can start small first if you want by smiling or even complimenting her, like "That colour looks nice on you" you also don't want to sound creepy so make it a small simple compliment. Don't get too into the friend zone also.. because you don't want that if you like her. Do you have medication for anxiety? If not, you could talk to you doctor and he/she could prescribe you with it. Hope I helped! :)
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Maachah Originally Answered: Could i have an anxiety disorder?
You need to talk to your parents. You need them to know that what you are going through. Make them understand that them getting angry will only make things worse. I think you might be surprised by their reaction if you tell the truth, not to mention it will feel good just to tell someone. I'm sure they only want the best for you. Your well-being and happiness is far more important than high school. In a few (very) short years you will look back and think about how silly it was to worry about some stupid grades. I would also like to add that exercise and better eating REALLY does help depression and anxiety. Life is short, do what makes you happy.
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