Topic: Does she still love me?
June 24, 2019 / By Anabelle Question:
Me and this girl have gotten really close but aren't allowed to date till we are 16 in two months, we are seen as a couple right now, we just can't say that we are. Well, I absolutely adore her, but then the last week she has been spending less time with me, and she always goes and sits with this other guy that likes her, and I'm scared she might be done with me, and to make matters even worse, he asked her to prom today, and she is going to say yes. That might not seem to bad, but she has always considered dances a date, and she's I'd adamant about not dating until she's 16, yet she is still going... I'm feeling kind of hurt, but I don't know if I'm over reacting or if I should let her go before it gets to hard, I still really care about her and want her to be happy, even if that means she goes to someone else to make it happen. I even tried to kiss her once, but she told me not until she's 16 once again. I'm scared to lose her, but I also know that we will always be friends? What should I do or think?
Weaver | 3 days ago
What I suggest you do, Cameron, is to find out 100% if this girl likes you or not. After reading your story, I still can't tell if she likes you, so your next homework assignment is to make sure she 100% likes you. HOW you do that is on you - only take s a little brain storming and maybe a few extra friends involved.
As far as this prom situation goes, in my opinion, yes, you may be overreacting. But you know what? That is completely normal! The fact that you are worried simply proves to everyone that you truly do have feelings for her and you don't want to lose her to another guy. The best advice I could give you is to try whatever you need to do, to a safe extent, to not think about that so much or your anxiety levels will sky rocket through the roof. Now trust me, I know from personal experience that that will NOT be easy by any means necessary. I completely understand that so long as she is going to prom with this guy, those thoughts won't be able to leave your mind with ease, I get that, I do, but the best and only advice is to try and take your mind off of that because you are overreacting.
Now, with the dances to be considered as dates to her, there are two ways to look at that. On one hand, that EASILY could've been just a saying especially coming from a girl who is under 16. I remember when I was 16 years old, I said PLENTY of stuff that I did not mean, and if that is the case, Cameron, then you have nothing to worry about in that area because she could've just said that and not meant it, so saying yes to the guy could simply be a friendly yes.
On the other hand, if she does still consider dances to be dates and will say yes to the guy that is asking her to prom, it could be the end of her you and her and I'm sorry to say that. Going on a date, and dating a person are two similar but different subjects. They both are romantic, but a guy and girl can still go on a date and not be dating each other. In another words, if dances are dates to her and she will say yes, I think it might be time to move on to another girl. By all means, if she does start to fall for this other guy, you can try and fight for her, but your assumptions may be true for now.
That's all I have,
Good luck to you!
Not sure about the love part...but geez if she is going to a dance with another guy and considers that a date but won't go out with you until she's 16...I think there is some hard news in store for you. I would let her go not to make HER happy but to make YOU happy. Kinda sounds like she is using you, sorry :(
No, no one really loves anyone except a parent who loves their child.
Love is a big bunch of horseshit.