Originally Answered: Either I've got issues or my dad has issues?
He has some issues if you tell him he is hurting you or annoying the stuff out of you and he does not stop. This sounds like a jr high student and not your father.
Giving him the benefit of the doubt guys don't always show their feelings and when they do they are sometimes inappropriate and often misinterpreted.
If their are no bullying or sexual overtones to his behavior then I suggest you journal your feelings for a week and then go back and read them. If there are then you need to talk to your mom and another trusted adult. Since he almost never listens that means he must listen sometimes. Start out getting help with homework and bring up the behavior that bothers you- When you grab my throat you may not think so but it really does hurt, if you want to show me you really do care about my feelings you would stop immediately when I ask you to. There is a whole section of books in the library and the bookstore on daughter father relationships ask the librarian to direct you to the section and scan the section. I would consider reviewing journal entries and put your thoughts in a handwritten letter or card. Dad I love,,,,,,, but you need to grow up some......I am not a little girl anymore
When guys are good friends there is usually lots of good natured done with good not ill will pushing and shoving non-sexual or bullying or with intent to harm or hurt especially when joking around or there was when I was growing up. If he really does love you he will listen and change this behavior. He may also be trying to toughen you up some depending on his upbringing which folks usually subconsciously gravitate to doing without conscious thought action and inaction otherwise or counseling. Ask him about his childhood as this might also give you insight into your situation. Best wishes and also read about assertiveness training.