Topic: How Do I Get My Mother Back?
April 21, 2019 / By Tera Question:
Lately my mother comes to me with all of her martial problems. In a way, I don't mind. I'm only 15, though; a bit emotionally unstable with depression and anxiety.
She's not happy with my father, she doesn't go into it much; but she constantly reminds me how unhappy she is and how she wants to leave him. But she continues to remind me in front of my sensitive 11 year old brother. Lately, she's been on edge, extremely. She snaps at every little word anyone says. Sit stays in her room all day; playing on the computer and blasting music She comes out every so often to get a drink; but not too often considering she was a bathroom in her bedroom. Sometimes she doesn't even know when my brother or I leave the house. She will message me on facebook instead of coming to see my, asking me how my day was. The first couple of weeks, I was okay with this; because my mother was happy, talking to me with a smile. But after a month of two of this.. it's getting rather tedious. She screams at my father on the phone when anyone is over. Not that I blame her, he forgets to pay the bills; maybe he's doing something else? But my father acts like nothing is wrong, he even spent the day with me today. I really don't want to lose my parents.. they've never been romantically close as I've seen. I'm not sure if I've ever seen them kiss in my life, maybe once or twice.
My mother.. just continues to ignore her family. She says that she has other things to do then 'take care of us' referring to my brother and I. And I can understand that completely, I enjoy a get-away as well, but I try not to let it get in the way of my family time.
I've sort of become my brother's mother, it bothers me a bit. I ask him if he wants food, ask him if he needs homework help, going to get him when he's ready to ride his bike home.
Everytime I try to talk to my mother about her situation with my father and our family, she takes a long drag of her ciggarette, wearing her sunglasses; snapping at everything I say. Calling me nosy, telling me I should mind my own business.
But; if she wants me to mind my own business, why did she come to me in the first place?
I love my mother, how do I get her back?
Ronnette | 8 days ago
how about you talk to your dad? it might get awkward, but push to get answers. then ask your mom about it. tell her to take off her sunglasses, and pay attention to you. YOU are her daughter, and although you SHOULD show her respect, you deserve the same, considering that you've taken her role in the family lately.
your parents MAY get divorced, but it actually might help the situation.
Originally Answered: What is it with mother who just don't want to be mother anymore? Why did they have kids?
In the case of the 13-year old, I can understand giving him some responsibility. But, he is doing too much for a child his age. He will feel anxious, neglected, and his grades will probably suffer if this keeps up. Also, he will be more likely to fall in with a bad crowd since he is being given so much freedom and no oversight.
As for the younger kids, that is just very sad. It sounds like the parents are lazy, overworked, negligent, or apathetic. Whatever the reason, someone should call social services to make a few house calls. That might scare them into being actual parents.
ALSO I'm not so sure it is all the mother's fault. What happened to the FATHER's duties to care for and discipline his children, also? After all, he had half of the responsibility in creating the children, he does not get off the hook. I think BOTH parents are responsible.
She sounds depressed, you might suggest she see a doctor or therapist. Let her know how worried you are about the situation, talk to your dad about it too. You might take a look at what your mom is looking up on the computer since you say she is on it all the time. It might give you a better idea of what is going on with her. If she is really unhappy like she says she might be seeing someone else and communicating through the internet. I'm very sorry for what you are going through and I hope things work out for you.
YOUR MOTHER IS VERY DEPRESSED AND CONFUSED I THINK YOU AND YOUR BROTHER SHOULD GO STAU WITH A FAMILY MEMBER FOR A WHILE IF YOU DO GO AND YOUR MOTHER ASKES WHY TELL HER YOUR FEELINGS AND SLLSO SEE WHAT YOUR DAD SAYS BUT ALLSO ONE DAY WHEN ITS NOT SO WILD MAKE DINNER FOR YOUR DAD AND MOM CANDLE LIIGHTS SOFT MUSIC SOME MOVIES THEY HAVENT SEEN FORCE YOUR SELF ONE MORE TIME TO TRY TO MAKE IT WORK IF NOT THEN YOU HAVE TO LIVE FOR YOU AND YOUR BROTHER DONT KEEP TRYNA CHANGE THINGS.GOOOOOOOD LUCK AND IM SORRY ABOUT THIS.
Your mother is very angry and is hurting the entire family. She should do something about her situation bcause its her problem not yours.
Originally Answered: im looking to go farther back in my search from my ancestors. the farthest back i have is my great grandfather?
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