How to get over social anxiety? Any tips on how to act around people?

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June 18, 2019 / By Annabelinda
Question: My social anxiety is through the roof. I'm only really comfortable around my boyfriend and his best friend, I don't have any friends except for one who I don't talk to very much, and my boyfriend is my best friend. He is really understanding, and I love him, but he has sooooo many friends. I go to his house every weekend and usually we're alone or with his best friend, but many times his other friends will come over and hang out for a while. Sometimes for 15 minutes, half an hour, or an hour and a half, but it's agony for me... Sometimes I'll know who they are, sometimes I wont know them. Everyone is talking and laughing, and I'm sitting miserably next to him not saying a word. And I hate it. I hate that I don't talk. I want to, but I just.. can't. I don't have anything to say. And I'm very uncomfortable. Whenever my boyfriend tells me someone is coming over, I immediately feel so anxious and worried, and my back tenses up and I'm very uncomfortable and dreading them coming over. I even act this way when his roommate is around, and he's a person I see quite often in that house. I just want to know how to cope with it, and how to act around people? To them I probably just seem shy.. But my mind is racing and I'm incredibly anxious and I hate myself because I don't talk and I want to and it's just bad.
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Winfrid Winfrid | 5 days ago
Go to: http://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome Select "social anxiety" for free Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. An exercise which may help you is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more; smile at people, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your more outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior. (PRETEND that you are an ACTOR, PLAYING a PART). Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. A form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and yell out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, (make up your own - have some fun, safely) then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". Or, possibly in the company of a friend, or family member, on a different train, or bus route to your regular one, call out the names, or numbers of all the stops. It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, (EXPECT MODERATE DISCOMFORT/EMBARRASSMENT) you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me". Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down, or print, in large type/capitalisation, the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Put it in a prominent position, where you will see it regularly. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time, or directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people. Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed. C(h)amomile tea tastes better. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk. Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, from health food stores. Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers". Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above products like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in those techniques. Use a relaxation method daily, like http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-... or http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody... or http://www.wikihow.com Meditate or Tai Chi, Qi Gong, or yoga. Give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. It is free via the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com "EFT" & "EFT therapists" or www.tapping.com (13 free videos). Professional is best. - There is a version for use in public places, (if you want to, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind: "Even though I suffer from social anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself."
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Winfrid Originally Answered: you used to have social anxiety and you get rid of it. how?
Therapy - Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) for social anxiety has been markedly successful. This type of therapy aims at uncovering and changing the unconscious perceptions of danger associated with social situations. It also includes a gradual exposure to the feared situation until the individual no longer fears it. Thousands of research studies now indicate that, after CBT, people with social anxiety disorder report a changed life - one that is no longer controlled by fear and anxiety. Appropriate therapy is markedly successful in changing people's thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and behavior. Antidepressants (SSRIs such as fluoxetine (Prozac), sertraline (Zoloft), escitalopram (Lexapro), paroxetine (Paxil), and citalopram (Celexa) adjust the neurotransmitter levels in your brain to try and relieve anxiety), anti-anxiety medications (Benzodiazepines such as alprazolam (Xanax), chlordiazepoxide (Librium), clonazepam (Klonopin) and diazepam (Valium) create a sedative affect to reduce anxiety), and beta-blockers (Propranolol (Inderal) are used to stop the effects of adrenaline (such as palpitations, sweating) – a key chemical in anxiety) are the most common medications used for anxiety disorders. The most common side effects for benzodiazepines are drowsiness and dizziness. Other possible side effects include: * Upset stomach * Blurred vision * Headache * Confusion * Grogginess * Nightmares. Common side effects from beta-blockers include: * Fatigue * Cold hands * Dizziness * Weakness. In addition, beta-blockers generally are not recommended for people with asthma or diabetes because they may worsen symptoms. Natural Herbal and Homeopathic Remedies Natural remedies for overcoming social anxiety disorder symptoms can include alternative treatments such as relaxation and deep breathing techniques as well as herbal and homeopathic remedies which may be very helpful along with psychotherapy. As with other psychological ailments, a holistic approach has proven beneficial in treating Social Anxiety, while also incorporating mainstream and complementary treatments along with balanced diet and exercise. Taken alone or in combination with psychotherapy, natural remedies for overcoming social anxiety disorder symptoms offer the same benefits as conventional medications, but without the disturbing side-effects and potential for addiction. Tailored to suit your individual needs, natural products can help relieve anxiety and calm the negative physical effects of social anxiety disorder. Some well known and commonly recommended natural remedies for overcoming social anxiety disorder symptoms include Melissa Officinalis (Lemon Balm), Lavender and Passiflora Incarnata – to soothe the mind and calm the nerves. Some herbal remedies (e.g. Hypericum perforatum or St John’s Wort) have been clinically shown to be just as effective as many of the anti-depressant drugs. Taken over time, they can balance brain chemistry and prevent the overwhelming symptoms of anxiety from occurring in the first place. You may get more info here http://www.healthherbsandnutrition.com/remedies/s/socialanxietydisorder.htm

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Neville Neville
Coping with it: Remember that you WILL GET BETTER. Your social anxiety WILL GO AWAY. You have people who love you. You have your boyfriend, your family. You will be fine. Every night, before you go to bed, take some deep breaths, and lie on your back. Just reflect over your day, and remember the five things listed above. Acting around people: Remember the five things when approaching people! Smile and say hi. Talk. You'll find it hard, but the more you do it, the easier it'll be. You don't have to talk too much, just greet people and occasionally give your opinion, if you don't want to start discussions. You'll be fine, I used to have social anxiety. X Best of luck.
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Kip Kip
Build self-confidence! - it's the most important and the best trait a person can have. Don't be shy to pitch in the talk, be interactive with eveybody and cheer up. It's nothing to worry about. I'm guessing you're somewhat around my age (15) so you obviously know how badly people can talk, if one person says something and you say something back the conversation will probably go on and last long. So make sure you work on your social life and on staying away from feeling miserable. Day by day you will get better, so chill about it and enjoy life!
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Kip Originally Answered: social anxiety problem help!?
View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, ( esp. PUBLIC SPEAKING - ADDRESSING A LARGE AUDIENCE ) and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior. (I PRETEND that I'm an ACTOR, PLAYING a PART). Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, (EXPECT MODERATE DISCOMFORT) you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me". Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people. Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk. Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles). Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers". Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in those techniques. 40% of people are fairly suggestible. http://www.hypnosisdownloads/ has many: SEARCHBAR - "social anxiety".
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