I am intelligent, but have failed/dropped out of college several times despite love of learning!?
Topic: I am intelligent, but have failed/dropped out of college several times despite love of learning!?
July 16, 2019 / By Vi Question:
I am 21 years old. I am a fairly intelligent girl. I love to read and I love to learn new things. The only subject that I find really difficult is Math, but I can get by if I can manage to concentrate on it. I self-educate myself on anything that I get interested in. I generally have between 2-8 books going at all times (usually one fiction and the rest are non-fiction). I was an average student in high school... I didn't do any of my homework but could get by with just my test scores. I am an excellent tester and have strong writing skills. Not that I know if this matters or not, but I did have an extremely traumatic childhood and adolescence and have suffered psychological and emotional abuse from my father until I cut him off completely two years ago. I have had professional counseling and I do not feel "damaged" or unwell because of those experiences anymore. I am pretty well at peace with my past and my current life.
I don't know what my problem is. I have been in and out of college 4 times now!!! I have tried several different majors, but I generally LIKE school no matter what major. I always fail a bunch of classes. I will even go to all the lectures and take the tests but fail because I don't get any of the assignments done. When I do get the assignments done, I do really well on them but they are always turned in really late. I have tried full time and part time. I have been to a couple different schools too. I have never had the opportunity to live on campus (which I always thought I would enjoy), I have always had to commute and work part time while going to school. I generally find my classes interesting and really enjoy the lectures. I do very well on all the tests. But I am almost incapable of getting my work done. I'm really not that lazy of a person. I have a really hard time remembering what I have to have done (I don't have that problem in any other function of my life), and I find myself almost incapable of starting or finishing assignments. I will sit for HOURS upon hours trying to work on school assignments and get absolutely nothing accomplished. When I do remember what I have to have done, I will not think about anything else. It will never leave my mind and I will sit down and try to do it over and over and never get the job done. I get so stressed out and down on myself about school. I still feel really ashamed that I was so horrible in school. Partying or socializing in school wasn't the problem either. I have taken school seriously.
I have pretty much given up on finishing my education. I just don't think I can do it. I have really tried. But I feel like there is something wrong with me that I can't do it. I am far too intelligent to be such a failure. I even looked up ADHD trying to figure out if that could be it but I really don't have hardly any of the symptoms and I'm not hyperactive at all nor am I lazy.
I have a really hard time trying to put into words, explain, or even make up excuses for why I can't succeed in college. I just don't understand it at all.
Best Answers: I am intelligent, but have failed/dropped out of college several times despite love of learning!?
Serina | 1 day ago
That may help....It should
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Originally Answered: what does,"it was the worst of the times, it was the best of the times mean"?
"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times; it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness; it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity; it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness; it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair; we had everything before us, we had nothing before us” -Charles Dickens
The “best of times” and “worst of times” begins with the theme that helps prepare us for one of the major causes of the French Revolution – the coexistence of immense wealth and immense poverty in France in the pre-revolutionary period. The period in which the novel opens is a period both of Light and Darkness – a period of contrasts.
I understand. I've started and stopped college a few times. For me, though, I didn't enjoy the subjects in college. In most of the 100 and 200 level courses, I already knew as much as the instructor was covering or just wasn't remotely interested. I finally found a path in college that I love. You will too.
I'm going to suggest you find an accredited 'alternative' college for your lower level courses. I went to SWIHA in Phoenix (SWIHA.edu). The classes were short and the deadlines very flexible!! People move across the country to get an associates from there. It is 'new age.' It is incredibly supportive. You cannot fail there unless you try. I'm sure there are other colleges with similar philosophies. From there, I was able to transfer to University of Phoenix. (There is an articulation agreement in place.) I love it. The classes are 5 weeks long. The only thing is, you CANNOT put off your homework.
As for ADHD, you don't need to be hyperactive or lazy. You could be inattentive.
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My situation was similar to yours. When I had an assignment, I would sit for hours with a blank sheet of paper before me, and accomplish nothing. I gave it all I had, and I flunked out three times before eking out a degree with a 2.0 G.P.A. I liked what I was studying, so I continued on to grad school, but I failed out of that, too. I scored in the 99th percentile on my college entrance exam. Many years have passed, and I still find it hard, and sometimes impossible, to start or complete assignments, though now it is at a job, rather than at school. Even so, I have been constantly employed for many years, by God's grace; I may struggle with this problem for as long as I live, and if you are like me, you may, too. I hope the past five years have been kind to you. Don't give up.
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Here's a thought for you: "Don't let your schooling interfere with your learning." I forgot the guy who said that, but I really keep that thing in mind.
Try a vocation course (and make sure it is a small college so you can adapt easily). Also, try a planner. Set a time for things you need to do. Make sure you have a starting time and a finishing time, so you have a target time (in your mind will come..."I have to finish ____ in ____ hours." If you can't finish, stop, then set another time next time. Make sure after you finish, you get yourself some ice cream.
If that doesn't work, I think you need to do your assignments with SOMEBODY ELSE. I mean, go do an assignment with a friend. Bring your laptop to her house and start working. In this way, you can benefit from him or her, and he or she enjoys having you in company.
Again, Make sure after you finish, you get yourself some ice cream.
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it sounds like you have ADD not ADHD. take out the hyperactive. you do NOT have to be lazy to have ADD. go to the special needs center on your campus (ask admissions about it) and find a counselor to talk to, and tell them you have trouble finishing tests and assignments on time. and that you love learning. they should have a center on campus that enables you to take the tests there and take all the time you need pretty much. they can help you get special tutoring too. its all free. god bless you for trying so hard. you can do it!
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Originally Answered: Professor dropped me from class, what can or should I do?
Certainly you can talk to an advisor on Monday. It is worthwhile to get that person's opinion. But why were you not completing the homework? That suggests that you did not have an interest in the class. It is understandable why you didn't pay for the class beforehand based on your explanation, but not doing the homework in a timely manner makes it sound like you did not care. If I were a professor and I had a student who had not paid and was not doing the work, I would come to the same conclusion that this professor did. It seems to me very likely that the advisor would think so, too. You don't offer an explanation about why you weren't doing the homework.
As you probably know, the homework and what you are supposed to learn in class go hand in hand. The homework helps you understand the classwork, the class work helps you understand the homework, and both help you pass your tests.
The advisor may help you get back into the class, especially if it really is the last one you need to graduate, but you might very well get a very low final grade because you haven't been doing the homework. Of course, every professor runs their class differently. When I taught college, I didn't accept any late homework at all. Perhaps this professor will.
Anyway, the tip I would give you is to make sure the advisor knows this is your last class before graduating. That should help a lot. Also, mention that you have been under a lot of financial strain due to your job. Sound as responsible and intelligent as you can. Everyone makes mistakes now and again. Hopefully this mistake won't stop you from graduating on time.
Good luck to you!