I feel blue, a little sad?

I feel blue, a little sad? Topic: I feel blue, a little sad?
June 26, 2019 / By Tanner
Question: I am 13 years old, and for the past say two months I have been sort of sad. If I am at school or with friends I am usually fine and happy, but sometimes I just feel sad. My parents are really great and I talk to them about it and that helps. I went to my doctor a few weeks ago an she said that it is normal adolescent hormones. I feel sad about: -Death -That everyday you get closer to dying -Life is short -World hunger -World Peace (lack of) -War -People who are in sucky situations -I fell sad that I am sad -My parents/others dying I worry that: -I will always feel sad -I will not be able to make it in the world -I will not be able to leave home, wil not be able to survive without my parents -I will fall apart when my parents die -War, bad things happening to me -THings like being kidnapped -That I am not normal -That no one (guys) will love me -That I will not be happily married -What happens when I die -The fact that on the cosmic scale, none of our lives matter Sadness is not affecting my school work, and I get straight A's. I have a healthy relationship with my friends/ I love to read and do art. I play an instrument, I do dance and gymnastics. I am on various clubs and committees. It's just that I find myself crying most days. When I cry I talk to my mom or dad about it. Or I read or watch TV or do homework and get distracted. I do often go through days feeling fine though. I feel sad that time moves so fast, it seems like I am growing up to quick. In five years I will be going off to college. My mom says I don;t have to go faraway. And that I will always have someone that loves me to talk to me, but I just am still scared. Time seems to whizz on past. I wish I could stop moving for a few seconds. It's sad that I was once a beautiful, innocent baby and now I am not. I have gotten better I guess, I spend more time happier. I come from a background of depression and alcoholism, but neither my mom or dad suffers from those, they are fine and I have a healthy family situation. My dad HAS suffered from depression in the passed (before I was born) and he currently takes medication for it. But he is happy and loving and fine. Am I normal? WIll I be alright? Does any one else feel this way? Thank you so, so much. I really appreciate your replies. :)
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Rika Rika | 10 days ago
Hi there, kiddo :) I've been where you are. You're only thirteen so I think your doctor is probably right about the hormones-they can make you feel pretty crappy until they settle down. I wouldn't be worried about not being normal. Most people go through what you are going through and it passes. For example, when I was 12 I burst out crying on the way to the movies because I thought about how scared I was of dying. And it is completely normal to be scared about growing up. I'm nineteen and that still freaks me out sometimes, but it gets easier. Once you do move out of home it won't take you long to realise that everyone you love is just a phone call away and will help you with anything :) And as for worrying about guys and marriage, we're women, those worries come with the boobs :) You shouldn't worry about not finding a guy to love you, he will come one day (maybe not as soon as you'd like but it will happen) It's good that you can talk to your parents about it, make sure you keep doing that. You should only worry about depression if you start to get negative thoughts a lot or feel down or irritated constantly for more than a week. You seem to be happy most of the time so I doubt depression is a problem for you. Just make sure to keep talking about your feelings and don't let things get bottled up inside you because that is a direct route to the land of misery. Take care of yourself now and try to your best to be happy and it will all work out, you'll see ;)
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Rika Originally Answered: Does anyone know what happen to the blue jays this year? ?
West Nile Virus has hurt blue jay populations somewhat, but they are doing better than most field/meadow species which are in STEEP decline. Summary of NY Times article below, mention of jays at the end. I've also noticed a decline in scrub and stellar jays this year (N California) ===== Meadow Birds in Precipitous Decline, Audubon Says By FELICITY BARRINGER Published: June 15, 2007 Spreading suburbs and large-scale farming are contributing to a precipitous decline in once common meadow birds like the Northern bobwhite, the Eastern meadowlark, the loggerhead shrike and the field sparrow, a report released yesterday by the Audubon Society said. Twenty common birds have lost more than half their populations in 40 years. The population of the bobwhite, a rotund robin-size bird that lives in meadows from the mid-Atlantic to the Plains, has dropped more than 80 percent, to 5.5 million from more than 31 million. The evening grosbeak, with a range from northern New England to the Pacific Northwest, has declined 78 percent, to 3.8 million from 17 million. The report covers a period when suburbs and exurbs were being carved out of Eastern and Midwestern farmlands and Southern wetlands. It also documents the loss of large numbers of Canadian and Arctic birds like the mallard-like greater scaup, the Northern pintail and the common tern, all affected by a combination of climate change and development along lakes and rivers. While the report, published in Audubon magazine has a national focus, it also gives state-by-state snapshots of declines in birds in 48 states where enough information is available. “The song of Eastern meadowlarks used to be the soundtrack of summer,” said Scott Weidensaul, a naturalist and author born in eastern Pennsylvania who has reviewed the report. “Now it’s a rare thing. The landscape is changing. Farming is much more industrialized. Development is sprawling across these valleys.” Although the declines since 1967 are steep, the overall populations of the meadow birds still number in the millions, or in the case of the scaup 300,000, making them too robust to qualify for protection under the Endangered Species Act. The new analysis is the first of three reports. The next will look at birds that may need federal protection. The final installment will track the effects of climate change. The changing bird demographics largely parallel the changes in the North American landscape wrought by people. In the Northeast, the reversion of fields to forests has hurt some field-dwelling species, and some forest-dwelling species have been hurt by the loss of woodland shrubs overbrowsed by deer. The most common backyard birds like robins, cardinals and blue jays are thriving, though blue jay numbers have been cut somewhat by West Nile virus, said Greg Butcher, the author of the Audubon report. The birds that have done best —perhaps too well, in the case of nonmigratory Canada geese — are those most at home in the world of manicured lawns and artificial lakes. The report coincides with Congressional deliberation of measures like the farm bill, which includes some provisions to set aside agricultural land in conservation reserve programs. Those provisions are under pressure because of the demand for expanded land for corn crops to fuel the ethanol boom. The report is based on a statistical analysis of two long-range bird censuses, one by the United States Geological Survey and one by Audubon. Both surveys cover 300 species, said Mr. Butcher, the director of bird conservation at Audubon and a former director of bird population studies at the Cornell Ornithology Laboratory. About 550 are covered by one or the other.
Rika Originally Answered: Does anyone know what happen to the blue jays this year? ?
Hi blue jays do not go South in the winter. I always had 3-4 pair of jays in my yard all winter. They are a beautiful contrast to the snow. I haven't seen 1 bluejay in 2 years!. Sad, Sad. I do hope Audobon or someone is taking some jays to a safe place where they can breed and increase their numbers in safety. I live in Connecticut

Mira Mira
Yes this is normal! I feel the exact same way, I'm 14 and started highschool this year. And I often feel just kinda empty like I'm not happy or sad but empty. If I were u I find out why u feel like this. For me it is because my sister left for college this year, time is going my so fast and I want it to but then again I don't, I want to see my summer friends, and I feel like my family is falling apart. Find out what is causing this. Maybe ur missing god in your life. Think about it
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Lillian Lillian
You are normal. Everyone is a little scared about death, but guess what, you don't need to worry about it. You are very very young and have a long life to live. Just live your life to the fullest. Everyone does die in the end, but what fun would life be if you were just going to live forever? Life is beautiful, and so is death.
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Lillian Originally Answered: Blue tongue skink or other reptiles?
I have a blue tongue skink myself, and have had him for a year (we're guessing that he's around 2 to 2.5 years old). He's the first reptile that I've ever owned, and I'm super happy with him. I prefer skinks to other reptiles because they grow larger than geckos, are very smart, have smooth scales ( as opposed to beaded dragons, who have very dry, rough skin), trainable, and easy to feed. The only downside is that it may be difficult to find one, as not many people breed them since they are not as profitable as egg-laying reptiles are. Also, depending on your geographical location, their preferred humidity is easy to maintain. The only time I have to pay attention to it is when I have the heat on during wintertime. They are also very versatile when it comes to food (as well as anything else). I feed my skink high quality canned cat food, mixed with a reptile calcium supplement, along with a variety of vegetables and fruit. Feeding live food (in the form of bug larva or crickets/roaches) is also good, but I find the convenience of the canned food much preferred. That way I'm not running out to buy bugs three or four times a week. Also, my skink has a funny love for salmon. Always make sure the animal you are buying is captive bred. Exporting native species out of Australia is illegal, though is is legal in Indonesia where BTS also roam. You don't want to support the business of catching a wild and potentially ill animal. Keep in mind that BTS can live as long as twenty years, so make sure that you can keep him long term. I'm 21, and my skink is around two years old. My boyfriend has resigned that where I go, my skink goes, and he's okay with that. ;D If you have experience in caring for other animals like small pets or cats, you'll find that once you settle in, the BTS is sometimes even easier to care for. They can be moody when the seasons change or when they're about to shed, often eating less then normal and hiding. Just let them be, eventually they'll come around. Shedding is pretty easy. It doesn't take long for them to shed at all, and it's usually done in just a few hours at most (other reptiles' shed periods can last several days and can be life threatening). Just keep an eye on their toes to make sure no dead skin is stuck, and have decorations in the tank of varying textures for them to rub on. Unlike snakes, they don't leave behind a perfectly formed shed. The best way I can describe a skink's shedding is to that of a person with really bad sunburn. The skin comes off in pieces or strips. Sounds gross, I know. It's not so bad when it's a lizard's skin though, haha! (My own skink just shed this morning!) As far as gender goes, you have a 50/50 chance of guessing correctly, unless you have a blood test done. So pick a gender neutral name and just hope you're correct. They have quite the personality and are a lot of fun, but always keep on eye on them when they are outside a secure terrarium or enclosure. The can be surprisingly quick for their size and disappear inside your couch, behind a refrigerator, or anyplace where their head can fit. They love to explore and hide! This is normal behavior, since they are burrowing animals. Their only defense in the wilds of Australia is the shock factor. Their blue tongue startles would-be predators just long enough for the skink to run off and hide under a rock or leaf litter. They can bite pretty hard when they want to, even though they lack proper teeth (the bumps in their mouth are a modified cartilage). I've only been bitten once, and it was no more painful then when a cat nips you or you smack your hand really hard on a wall. They don't have any venom, but like every living thing they do carry bacteria in their mouths. Just was your hand with soap and warm water to be safe. Leopard geckos will drop their tail if you pick them up by it, as it is a defensive reaction to escape birds and other animals that would eat them. Better to lose your tail (which will grow back in time) than your life! Skinks can also lose their tails in the same manner, so just don't pick them up (or pull them) by their tails at all to be safe. Like the gecko, the skink's tail will grow back, but it's not as pretty as the original. Regrown tails are oddly chubby-looking. Have the terrarium all set up with the heat lamp/UVA and UVB bulbs before bring the skink home. This lessens the stress of the move, because they won't be in the transport container for a few hours while you set up their house. Make sure you have a wide terrarium. Since they are diggers, the amount of height in the tank doesn't concern them too much. I have a Zilla brand 40 gallon Terrarium with a sliding screen lid. I'm not sure is this is too large for a juvenile though since mine was already adult size when I took him home.
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