I have a crush on a boy with Asperger's?

I have a crush on a boy with Asperger's? Topic: I have a crush on a boy with Asperger's?
April 21, 2019 / By Tajuana
Question: We're both 17 and attend an alternative school, and we're all expected to be extra-kind to each other. He has Asperger's, and although I've tried educating myself on this subject, I still feel vastly uninformed. Some studies say people with Asperger's are VERY capable of love; they just have trouble expressing it. Other cases argue that people with high-functioning autism can't even feel empathy. Maybe I'm just over thinking this, but this boy has me head over heals. I'm attracted to him because he's unlike any boy I've ever met; kind, intelligent, and actually talks to me about things that have never revolved around sex. We talk about things we both enjoy, such as, reading, learning, and our intense dislike of inhumanity. He's given me little objects as gifts like a Thanksgiving turkey hat, pin-on buttons, and messages me quite a bit on Facebook. Has asked me to hang out with him after school. But I think he does this a lot-- hanging out with friends after school. I've never had a boyfriend so I don't know what to think. I really like him, but I wouldn't want him to think I'm weird for asking if he liked me back. What should I do?
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Regan Regan | 8 days ago
i think that he is being friendly but people with aspergers and even high functioning autism are capable of love. i have a younger brother with high functioning autism and he tells me he loves me and hugs me everyday. you could try asking him if he likes anyone and go from there. just remember everyone with the above conditions are different and it is very hard to understand even for me sometimes. treat him like you would with anyother person but aknowledge his aspergers and with flirting and relationships you have to be very straight forward and simple. boys alone cant take hints and aspergers is worse.
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Regan Originally Answered: asperger's and homework?
I'm not sure if there a relationship to your asperger's, but I can tell you that it's not all that unusual in a 16-year-old. The pressure of everything going on at that age can be overwhelming. It could also be a sign of depression. Or just normal (I'm answer your question to avoid grading papers, which is what I really should be doing!) You could try some strategies. One thing I do it tell myself that I'm just going to do 15 minutes, and then I'll check Facebook. 15 minutes is manageable- once you get started, you might get on a roll and keep going, or you might stop, check Facebook, and then try another 15 minutes. When I have to write something extensive, and I'm overwhelmed, I start with a bit that I think will be easy- sometimes that's one paragraph I know I want to include, or I set up headings and then start filling in the content. Again, once I get going, it's easier to continue for a while. If those strategies don't help, sit down calmly and talk to your mom about it. Ask her if you can talk about possible depression with your doctor. Schools do tend to overload students with homework these days. It's also possible that your mom could talk to your teachers and get you some relief. For example, I know a younger child than you who almost stopped reading entirely because the school made them take multiple choice tests on the computer on the books they read and she hated the tests. Her mother talked to the teacher, and the teacher exempted her from the tests. She doesn't her name on the bulletin board with points for doing the readings, but she's enjoying reading again, which is more important. If you have an IEP, your mother should ask for a conference with your course teachers and the resource teacher to work something out. Schools do overload students with homework these
Regan Originally Answered: asperger's and homework?
It is likely just a combination of being 16 and maybe a touch of the aspergers. As suggested, set a goal of working on homework for a certain period of time. If you get on a roll and keep going great, if you feel the need for a break to check facebook take it but set a time limit on how much time you spend on that. My 9 year old boy was diagnosed with aspergers about there years ago, and those strategies seem to be working with him. The only other thing I would add is to try and minimize your distractions when doing homework. Don't do it right beside your computer, etc.

Michelle Michelle
Well I give you props for liking someone who has a condition such as his. But take a chance and tell him you like him. Do tell him you don't expect anything if he doesn't like you. Tell him you just wanted to get that off your chest. Good luck!!
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Lexa Lexa
the best thing is if you have his mail id Send him this link : http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D4fIGQoXP36Y&h=_AQFHjXPj You don't need to go tell him on his face , make him hear this and he'll be all yours :) Trust me :D
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Lexa Originally Answered: Can I get disability for Asperger's Syndrome?
Disability varies from state to state, and also an individual case basis. And anyone who is rude about Asperger Syndrome is an idiot. People should be aware that autism has nothing to do with intelligence, and it's difficult for people with autism to interact with others. You can apply for disability, and I recommend that you do so as soon as possible, as it takes a long time to get it, and even if you're turned down, when it's finally awarded, you can get money retroactively. The best of luck to you.
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