If you were homeschooled.do you feel like you missed out on anything or are you happy with your education?
Topic: If you were homeschooled.do you feel like you missed out on anything or are you happy with your education?
May 24, 2019 / By Sydne Question:
I am SERIOUSLY considering homeschooling my 2 small children. (Please, I do not want answers from people who oppose homeschooling). I am looking for real life experiences from actual homeschooled children OR adults that were homeschooled. I'd love to hear your experiences...what made it great, or what made it not so great. Any information would be helpful.
Also, if you are now an adult, was it hard to you to enter college? What do you do now, for a living?
Also, if you wouldn't mind, could you please include the "type" of homeschooling you received (traditional, Montessori, unschooling, etc.) Thanks!
Best Answers: If you were homeschooled.do you feel like you missed out on anything or are you happy with your education?
Rebecca | 9 days ago
I am 18 years old and about to graduate from my senior year of high school in a couple of weeks. I went to a small school for kindergarten. But after that I was home schooled (traditional) from 1st grade up to the second semester of 5th grade. I absolutely loved being home schooled. My mother was a great teacher and because I was the only student, I would get done with my work pretty quick; within a couple of hours actually. Then the rest of the day was mine. I loved this because I spent a lot of time outside. What I loved most was that my schedule was so flexible. I would often go to work with my father and do my homework later in the day simply because I wanted to spend time with him and homeschooling made that possible. Even though I was a very quiet and shy little girl, I never lacked friends. This was because, along with studying at home, my mother put me in tons of extra classes. I took an extra science class with other kids from a older lady in the neighborhood. It was really hands on and I had a lot of fun. I can still remember what I learned from Mrs. Debbie. I took cooking classes, Sign Language, Spanish, French, two different sowing classes, piano, gymnastics, karate, swimming classes, and more. Not all at once of course, but I was always taking at least 3 or four at the same time. As we moved around, my mom constantly got me more and more involved. I would study with other students about once or twice a week where a teacher would help us as we helped each other. I was so involved with other kids my age and with building new skills that I never felt like I was missing out on anything, and I never was. But when my mother had to get a second job and I was left to teach myself, that's when things got hard. I often got frustrated and soon both my parents and I realized that I needed to go to school. I was enrolled at a private school the second semester of 5th grade. Even though I jumped in at the middle of the year, I found the material quite easy. It turned out that I was at least a month ahead of what they were currently studying. But it was a huge change for me. I went from having most the day to myself to suddenly being stuck indoors for hours on end. It was rough for about a month but I soon got adjusted to the schedule and I learned to love being in school just as much.
The experience that your child has during homeschooling will be dependent on how much you can do. If you have time to sit down with them and do their studies for a couple of hours a day, then its perfect. But that wont be enough. If they are just in the house all day then of course they will have trouble socially later. But if the parents get their child involved and get them out there with other kids their age, then there will be no problem. If done correctly, I think homeschooling can be an advantage.
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Originally Answered: How do you feel about Early Toddler Education?
Well, obviously infants/toddlers and preschoolers are learning QUITE a bit before the age of five, and while many don't receive a "formal" education, they are being given an education by their caregivers.. even if the caregivers are unaware that they are teachers. Obviously, some of those educations aren't very good.
In terms of a more formal education, like preschool, I think it totally depends on the child. In my daughter's case, she was about three and a half when she started preschool (three days a week, three hours per day), and she LOVES it. For her it has been a great experience and I think it's been enhancing for her, not damaging.
I felt very mixed about enrolling her in preschool, because I'm a stay-at-home mom and I don't "need" to have her in preschool. If she'd benefit more from being home with me, I have the ability and desire to keep her at home. BUT, I also don't want her hamper her social, emotional and intellectual growth. I certainly don't need daycare, so when I looked for a preschool I looked for one that really provides "education" as opposed to "daycare." I'd checked out the Waldorf program by participating in their mommy-and-me program, a once weekly, six or so week course that you attend with your two year old to get to see their program in action and meet other moms in a mom-circle. Through that process I realized my daughter isn't a Waldorf kid and we're probably not a "Waldorf family." Montessori, however, was a perfect fit and I love the curriculum and approach of the facility we chose.
I was cautious about preschool and was concerned and didn't want to damage my child emotionally or otherwise, so I was watching carefully and completely prepared to pull her out if I felt it was the wrong path for her (still am...) But my concerns melted away the first day when she set foot in the classroom and was immediately sucked into the Montessori world in the best of ways. She was engaged and excited, hit it off will all the teachers and only has good things to say about the other kids she's becoming friends with. All of the kids I've met thus far outside of school have been delightful.
My daughter is a very rhetorical and classic learner and Montessori stimulates her in exactly the right ways. My girl sucks up information and knowledge and loves to figure things out. I work with her at home, more than the average mom (I think.. based on my experience/knowledge of my peers), simply because she really likes to learn and wants more, more, more. She has an insatiable thirst for knowledge and learning is very fun for her. I don't think all kids are like this - not to the extent that this is true for my daughter at any rate.
So again, I think it completely depends on the child AND I think a distinction has to be made between preschool, which really offers an early education and "preschool" which is a dressed up name for daycare for 3-5 year olds. I think "preschool" that's really daycare is certainly not as beneficial as being at home with mom and/or dad and for my daughter that context would be emotionally damaging. To set her off in a sea of "socializing" isn't my idea of "early education." We can do that together at playdates and on the playground, where I can give her support and one-on-one mentorship in relationship building and behavior if she needs intervention or support. For my daughter, early education has been a positive experience and it's been positive because her nature is such that she really yearns for this kind of educational experience. At first I felt like the preschool experience would take away from her experience of the natural world (we spend most daylight hours outside,) but she gets out of school at noon and we still have the afternoon to be out in nature - hiking, exploring, etc.
I feel like I have a whole mass of qualifiers for you, because I feel like it's not a simple question with a simple answer. For my daughter, going to preschool, even this fantastic one I have her enrolled in, for six hours a day, five days a week, would be WAY too much and would be harmful.. but three hours a day for three days a week is perfect. It's about knowing your child, researching your options and choosing what's right for you and your child - be that choosing to forgo preschool because it's not right for your child or jumping in feet first. I don't think one can say early education is harmful or emotionally damaging OR that it's not... blanketly.. it depends, so much, on tailoring to the individual needs of a given child.. for one child what is perfect and helpful and wonderful is damaging to another. If I were going to err on the side of caution, I'd likely err toward early education based on what children are NOT getting in the home.
I'm homeschool and still am, I'm in 8th grade and 13 years old. My mom has always homeschooled the four of us. here's the upsides of being homeschooled: 1. You get to stay home with your family and not miss out on all the things that happen while you would be away. 2. You can work at your own pace and if you have trouble with a specific thing you can just work on it until you understand. 3. It's not as stressful. You don't have to go through all of the things that kids in school go through like if you are too busy you can wait to get things done if you parents say you can.
The downsides to being homeschooled: 1. Friends, I never really got any friends until I was about 7, if you are homeschooling your children you need to put them in some activities, like sports, clubs, etc. Like my sister and I do dance class, softball, and did gym and swim. Just give them friends.
2. Get your work done, I am behind in 3subjects and it's not fun. I'm even considering going to public school. Good luck!
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Homeschooled all my life. Programming. Accepted into an Ivy League University my Junior year of high school. Graduating next month with a Major in Computer Science. No problems transtioning into school. Maintained a 4.0 so far. Keeping fingers crossed that I will maintain that GPA through this semester. I have friends, am active in a variety of clubs and community organizations, and I'm getting married in a year.
Missed out on the drama, and the bullying, and the hours of homework after school.
Gained a great relationship with my family, still went to the prom with other homeschoolers at a really nice catering place that holds many weddings, had a great homeschool graduation. We picked our own class colors, chose our own graduation caps and gown, our own keynote speaker. This more than outweighs anything I may have missed in school. Life is good. Go for it!
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I started out in private schools I went there for 9 years but it got too expensive and it was a pretty long drive. Im happy with the education and freedom homeschooling gave me. I do feel like I missed out on some stuff like my friends and sports (I was very athletic) I was able to enter community college when I was 16 I am now 22 and working as a nurse in a maternity ward. If you do homeschooling I would suggest finding something your kids like to do and join a group so they develop social skills. I would try to avoid homeschool groups as much as possible they are very weird people....
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I was homeschooled and it wasn't entirely the positive experience I'm expected to say it was. But I'm objective enough to realize that it was how I was parented, not where I did math, It would have likely been the same if I were in school. My parents are/were uber conservative and controlling. I was only allowed to associate with people who were "carefully screened", meaning other homeschooled kids from our Christian support group and/or kid from my church. My mom checked every move I made, I had to dress a certain way, no dating until I was courting for marriage. I often felt suffocated as an older teen. However, none of that has anything to do with where I studied math and history. Though my parents tried to control my beliefs by providing only very conservative curriculum and books, I took upon myself to learn about things they'd rather I not. If I had gone to a Christian school or even a public school, my parents would have still been my parents. Other kids I know who were homeschooled were allowed much more freedom. They volunteered in the greater community, traveled or did other things. Others were raised like I was. Some are happy with that. What I did was get out of the house, enroll in a community college and make a life that I wanted as an adult. I don't know if I could have gone directly to a four year university. That wasn't made an option to me. I imagine heading straight to secular science could have been hard. I'm a nurse now.
My suggestion is that you examine your motivations for homeschooling as well as others. You could read through here and other sites for six months or a year and you'll get what issues people have If you are bugged by the semi-paranoid "all teachers are abusive types, and schools are set up for Marxist indoctrination", then don't go there. Are you bugged by the "I don't control my kids, but I don't let them move an inch types"? Then allow them some appropriate freedom. Or the "My kid is SOOOO perfect, she can do no wrong, she's beautiful, a talented athlete and scholar (And it's all because my parenting skills are superior to yours)."vibe, then don't project that. Don't make it your ego that drives you to raise a little Einstein, as in "My kid is excelling in calculus and he's only in 8th grade. If your child is that, he/she is that. If you're ever tempted to make an extra account for your child and answer for him in the HS thread, or use it to point game, then you probably have some control and ego issues. Control those in your homeschooling. My mom would tell everyone how much I loved homeschooling. Her ego would never allow her to admit the truth that it's like everything else: mixed. Plan your homeschooling to avoid those. Because homeschooling can be a perfect choice, or a lousy one based on ego. Make it a perfect choice.
Someday I MAY homeschool my kids, but it won't be as I was.
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I was homeschooled until 8th grade, then I went to high school my freshman year. I liked homeschooling in most ways, I'm not at all sorry I was homeschooled, it's just that my parents and I decided that it wasn't right anymore. I loved that I could finish earlier, work at my own pace, and learn about things that I had an interest in. But I felt like I had outgrown it. I know not everyone feels that way. There were a few reasons I wanted to go to school. For one thing, our family isn't Christian. In my area, almost all the homeschooled kids are, even if that isn't the reason they homeschool. Some of the girls felt like they had to try to convert me. It got really annoying to go to some homeschool events. They didn't really accept me. Don't believe what homeschooling people tell you about them all being polite and welcoming. Some really aren't!! They just couldn't see where that wasn't polite. And that they had their little cliques. Also, I want to be a doctor. I wanted to start science and our co-op science courses didn't work for what I wanted. Since I was still too young for community college, high school was a good option. It's hard to find secular science curriculum at the high school level. Also, I wanted to play a sport that isn't available through our homeschooling league, be in band and student government. My high school is good. About 60 percent of students go straight to a four year university. I know I could have done the same things if I had stayed homeschooled, but I would have had to drive a long ways to a co-op that I fit into, the nearest YMCA is 40 miles and our community center only offers very beginning classes. The co-ops do proms and stuff like that. It just wasn't for me anymore.
I would tell you to go with homeschooling, just keep an open mind. Don't be stubborn about changing things, even going to a school. That's not a good sign for what type of education you're going to give your child. Just do what's right year to year and stay flexible. The person who said that school is what you'd put into it is right. There are losers at my school who put nothing into it, but my friends aren't a bunch of worldly sl*ts who do nothing. Most of us are going to college. I hate it when people judge schooled or homeschooled kids. my friends who are still homeschooled sometimes think that all kids at school aren't as close to their parents, all do drugs, are tramps or whatever. Sometimes they think I had to have been bullied constantly, Sometimes their parents exaggerate to make them afraid. I'd say usually those stereotypes come the same place as stereotypes against homeschoolers do. They've just don't have much experience with it. Remember that one persons experience can be really different from another's.
I've been accepted to a top-ranked four year university. I won't have an AA to start, but I don't know why I'd need one if I'm getting my BS. And finishing a year or two early, that's mostly about bragging. What difference will it make when I'm 35? I'm not in a rush. I was what I'd call mixed homeschooled. I could pick a lot of things to study, but I also had to do some things my parents thought were important. Like I already said, I want to go to medical school.
Have fun homeschooling.
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Originally Answered: How do you feel about having fine arts in public education?
I think it is sad that they are lacking in public education.
When a child learns how to play the piano, read music, etc. it not only helps him/her with music, but also with math. Public education should be well rounded including not only math and science, but fine arts, physical education, and plenty of interesting creative projects that can include all of the disciplines.
In my humble opinion, if all children were taught as the gifted children are, they would be able to explore so much more and have fun learning.
Good luck with your project. :-)