in college, unmotivated, should I accept an offer for a mentor?
Topic: in college, unmotivated, should I accept an offer for a mentor?
April 22, 2019 / By Sylva Question:
Hello. I am 18 and a freshman in college. I was an honors student in high school, but am a total slacker so far in college. I can't self motivate. I didn't really motivate that well in high school either, but was smart enough to do well anyway (because high school was easy). Growing up my mom (single mom) pretty much let me do whatever I want, let me get out of trouble when she rarely DID put her foot down, etc....and I guess I just never learned proper boundaries/consequences, and it has led me to be horrible at normal, mature self-motivation.
A friend of mine (a sophomore) told me that she had similar problems and that a family friend of hers (who is in her mid thirties) started serving as, essentially, a parent figure. She sets boundaries (mostly about school, work ethic, etc), gives advice, encouragement, and consequences if you step outside of your boundaries (consequences including grounding, loss of privileges, and sometimes even spanking). I felt (and still feel) that this sounds CRAZY, yet I have to admit that it seems to work for her......and I do realize the link between my problems now, and never having a mom. And Id be lying if I didnt admit that it WOULD motivate me. Her mentor has offered to take me on as well.
Anyone have advice? I am for real, so please no pervs. I want real advice.
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Rebecka | 2 days ago
One of my friends did a study while in University. The premise was that those who did well in high school tended to not do well in University because they never learned how to struggle. The polls were overwhelming in support of that theory. I myself never did homework in highschool, preferring to just solve problems at the last minute on the bus or in the class and often would walk in late for a test because I had forgotten that there was one and yet still do well. It didn't help that I was usually excused from class since I always had the highest or second highest quiz results and it didn't help that I often corrected the teachers. Out of two days in high school, I may have attended two hours and have been excused from the remainder for various reasons. Well, once in University, I simply didn't have the discipline to do the work and my grades suffered. I don't think I've ever developed the skills that I should've during grade school. Our school system and society neglects the gifted. Even gifted programs are really more social and economic elitism rather than actually identifying and assisting the gifted.
A mentor that acts like a personal trainer keeping you on a schedule would probably be a good idea. One that simply relates advice from his or her experiences is probably not going to help. You need discipline.
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Originally Answered: I need an info systems mentor for a college web page im making. Easy 10 points!?
1) Long Beach, CA
2) around $80,000
3) help plan and maintain the IT infrastructure of the organization and the WAN, help with maintenance and backups of the entire computer system, manage troubleshooting of system, and also work with other project managers to help implement new systems.
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As far as training and background, I started out as an intern for a large multi-national corporation. They offered me a position after college as a systems analyst where I basically troubleshooted things when our clients had issues. I moved after 3 years to the company I am at now (which will remain nameless) and I manage the entire IT infratructure of this company now. This is pretty much the typical route for people who want to be in IT project management. With people being laid off though, I have noticed some people with these jobs that have much more experience than others.
The good side of this job: Managing people (if you are good with people), implementing a system in which you had a lot of say in the development phase, pay is decent, job market is strong, and you know companies are going to rely on information technology for many years to come
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I've stated all alongside that children do not desire a "exceptional buddy" for a dad or mum...they particularly do desire a dad or mum. They desire to understand there are obstacles, they desire to understand what occurs, and that it'll occur in the event that they pass the ones bounderies. Keep in brain, now, even though, you are an grownup, too. You appreciate what must have occurred and, simply due to the fact that it did not, does not imply you'll be able to play the sufferer, now. Children do not include homeowners manuals, mother and father attempt to do the exceptional they are able to...and, most commonly, it is headquartered at the parenting your dad or mum acquired. Take at the mentor, and study from that man or woman the right way to encourage your self. You can not depend on any person else for motivation perpetually.
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Get a father figure, not a 'parent' figure. I have a single mom too and it's extremely hard as you know for her. Don't blame her parenting skills because you lack motivation. You probably just don't know what you desire to do for the rest of your life.
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Try it out. If you don't like it, quit. You've got to poop or get off the pot. Just sitting there is getting you nowhere.
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Originally Answered: Can someone offer some insight as to how to do well in college?
Hey, take it easy on yourself! If you knew the stuff backwards and forwards, you'd be a prof, not a student. You don't suck. Chem E is a hard major. Thermo is one of the toughest classes you can take in college. I remember it. It seemed clear enough when the prof was lecturing, but then when I reviewed my notes, it was just WTF? WTF? WTF?
Don't get tempted to try harder. That obviously isn't working. You're trying as hard as a man can try.
How about this? Take a break. Eat pizza with your friends. Chill for a while.
Then find yourself a study partner. When you get a problem set, have him take problem 1 and you take problem 2. Work out the answers as best you can and explain to each other how you solved them. Then sleep on it, then do another pair of problems together.
Sometimes the job of explaining something to a friend helps you learn it.