Originally Answered: Should age matter in relationship? opinions? ?
I think age does matter, but not necessary as in a number,
When your young the age gap is very noticeable, simply because you develop differently at different ages. A 12 yr old wants similar things to a 14 yr old in life and relationships and in some case even a 16 yr old ,but has a completely different outlook to a 18 yr old.For an 18yr old to date a 12 yr old this is completely immoral, but the age gap is a mere 6yrs . This is little to do with the actual numbers but more to do with maturity.
That same 6yr age gap in a 24yr old and a 18yr old is not as noticeable.even if your talking about the same people as before because some decree of personal development has been achieved.
But an 18yr old or a 24 yr old dating someone 15yr there elder.Then the age gap can see huge again ,the term toy boy,or sugar daddy, comes in because the oldest person in the relationship, if boundaries are not set ,can become a parent figure.
But that same 15yr gap in a 50yr old dating a 65 yr old ,in most cases, isn't even noticeable.In fairness at these age levels people generally know what they want out of life and how to achieve it ,so both partners would be on equal footings.
I thought i was grown up at 14yr old ,and dated an 18yr old who did want a more adult relationship,then i wanted.But it was exciting,and short lived. i met the same guy 10yr later and thought how childish and naive he was, i had out grown him.
I look back now [i am 38] and realise how much i have matured over the course of my life, My choices at 18 ,25 ,30 and would be completely different as i sure they will be in the future,And for this reason , i feel that so that no-one takes advantaged that maturity should mean more than numbers.although to a certain degree they do come hand in hand.
When you are talking massive age gaps then without being to general about it ,i sure that that at least one of the parties would have something to gain.the 80yr man with a 25yr old ,would have nothing in common , and in normal circumstances they wouldn't meet.