Should I leave?
Topic: Should I leave?
July 16, 2019 / By Tallula Question:
I'm a freshman in college and I've been here for about a month. I've talked to my family and friends about this and they all support me in whatever I choose....I'm wondering if I should drop out for right now, at least. Take a year or two off, get a job, go to a community college and take a course or two...I'm just feeling like college isn't for me. I've always had a hard time focusing in school and it takes me a long time to absorb information in class. Then, when I go to do my homework, I feel like I wasn't even in class...I usually need to hear things 2 or 3 times to get it (learning new names). I struggled through so much in high school (had a 3.3 GPA), but I don't know if I want to do it for another 4 years....thoughts? Anyone feel/ever felt the same way?
Best Answers: Should I leave?
Regina | 1 day ago
I think that if you were to drop out now for "a year or two" and then try and go back, I seriously doubt you would be able to. In a year or two, you would be so far disconnected from school that you would have an even harder time getting back into the swing of things. Basically, I think maybe you should STAY in college, lower the number of courses you have (to the lowest you need) and get through it and get a degree, because if you drop out now, you'll have a worse job later in life and will never be able to go back to school.
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Originally Answered: Do you think I should leave him?
Where was your parents voice when their daughter was dating a 25 year old man??? Get your head out of the clouds. There is no way a man who only makes 17k a year in CA can support his pregnant teenage girlfriend, his 8 year old daughter, make car payments, etc.... It cost a lot of money to support a baby. You actually think he can completely support you and the baby and pay all his other debts and you will be free to spend the next 6 years going to school?
Your lack of maturity is really showing here. You think love will make everything work out. Girl! Love does not pay the bills and it won't put food on the table. I guess you're going to have to learn things the hard way. You've already made several huge mistakes in your life and you're only 17. First mistake? Dating a grown man who is 25 when you're only 17. Second mistake? Having sex with him. Third mistake? Not being mature enough to take on the responsibility to have safe sex. Protect your self from an STD and/or pregnancy.
I bet you think having a baby will be fun. You can dress her up and show her off to your friends. You also believe your boyfriend will always be there for you. I bet his other baby's mama thought that too, but she's his EX girlfriend now and he's still sleeping with a teenager and getting another one pregnant.
You won't listen to your own parents, so you aren't going to listen to a complete stranger either. You made your bed and now you are going to have to lie in it. The fantasy bubble you're living in right now is going to burst when that baby is born. You're going to get a reality check when you find yourself having to take care of a demanding baby, trying to get enough sleep to go to school and find time to do your homework. Then there's the problem with not enough money to support your child. Your life as you see it today, will be GONE once that baby is born. You won't believe that until you become a mother.
So, you have to work harder and have had to work harder...
College is not easy.
However, it sounds like you have already decided and are looking for a rational from an online group.
My suggestion is: if you drop out or wait find your rationale.
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Okay. So. I went to college. Full scholarship, weighted courses, double major, huge course load. I made Dean's List first semester with a 3.8 GPA. Then I went completely insane, stayed at a psych ward for a week, and was asked to leave the school. (I was feeling depressed first semester, so the school psychiatrist gave me a scrip for anti-depressants. Turns out I'm bipolar, so the anti-depressants actually made me oh so much worse, and I had a "psychotic break from reality.") They offered to hold my scholarships until the next year, so I could go back.
Here are my reasons for not going back: The way I see it, there are three reasons for education. Learning, socialization, and certification. Even with all my classes, I didn't feel like I was actually LEARNING anything, so that's out. I already have social skills (nervous breakdown notwithstanding), so that's out. And nothing I want to do actually REQUIRES a college degree, so certification isn't a good enough reason to stay. So I didn't go back.
Now, five years later, I'm 22 and working a job I don't like, scrounging around on the Internet trying to find scholarships so I can go back to college. Turns out, what I'd really like to be is a teacher (original major was theater and journalism. I'm not a good enough actress to make a living at it, and while I did get a job at a local newspaper right after I came home from college, it was most certainly not what it was cracked up to be.) and so now I DO need certification. Whaddaya know?
So anyway, the point of all this is those three questions.
1) Are you learning anything at all?
2) Are you making new friends or learning what living on your own is like?
3)Do you know what you want to do for a living? Are you SURE? Does it require a college degree?
If it needs a degree, stay in college. If not, leave. And if you're not sure WHAT you want to do, it's probably a better idea to stay in college (unless college costs money) while you sort it out. Because going BACK to college in between work and rent and car payments and all that other stuff...is really difficult.
I hope this helps!
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I felt the same way in my first year of college don't worry it is just new school jitters. Stick it out you will be so much happier if you do if you drop out or go to a community college you will never return. What I did in my classes was have a meeting with each teacher and ask if you can set up study sessions OR if they would be willing to be recorded so you can listen a few times over. But I tell you what once you get your general out of the way and into your major class will be a breeze because you should major in what you are interested in, if you do that you will enjoy attending classes. Next thing you know you are a graduate and then you look around saying Now what?
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I have several friends who didn't finish college who are just as successful in the "real" world as those of us who did. And you're right, school isn't for everyone.
That being said, there's a TON of social aspects, worth ethics, problem solving skills, growing up, etc. that college offers you that you can't replace. (I don't know your story though, you may be working your way through school and living at your parents house - then, it's not as much of an issue).
Do whatever you feel comfortable with - just thought I'd throw some thoughts out there. And like you said, you can always go back. so it's not a decision you have to stick with forever (or you can always drop out next semester!)
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