what are the long term effects of sexual abuse on a child?
Topic: what are the long term effects of sexual abuse on a child?
June 27, 2019 / By Andrina Question:
Hi a few years ago we found out my daughter was bening sexual abused by a family member of her real dads. He got away with what happened on mental heatlh grounds as he did not have a mental age that he could be charged for the offence. I am so mad because now I have lost my child in that I mean she will never be an inersent little girl again as she now knows things that a normal 7 year old should not know. If he had been charged she would have gotten help from victim support for what happened but we are left to deal with this on our own. I had the NSPCC come for a few sections but more to help me get over it then her. We tried to get her counceling but the psycoigist said she is to young and wait till she is older. She does have a ped counsultant that said she has ADHD and is on ritalin although this is only for school times as I don't think children should be on this kind of med long term plus the rebound is really bad. I am always her for her if she wants to talk even if its so hard
to hear her talk of it. I total reeforce the fact this was not her fault and she did nothing wrong. I also have great parents that listen to her and she talks to them more then me a lot. But I just don't think its enough I want her to get the counceiling she needs now and the NHS will not give it us (I live in the UK) I can't efford to go private I on disabiled and on state money so its just not in our power to be able to pay for this kind of support. where can I go to get help? I don't just want to sit back and wait and see how it mess's up her life I want it delt with now so it will not effect her later.
Best Answers: what are the long term effects of sexual abuse on a child?
Wil | 2 days ago
First, the psychologist who said she's too young for counseling is an idiot. My mom works with kids who are much younger than that all the time. I'm not sure what the youngest is, but I know she sees preschool age kids (3 to 4 years) fairly often, and I think she's had clients who were even younger than that. Even infants and toddlers can benefit from therapy under certain circumstances, usually if they were abused, neglected, or otherwise traumatized. Play therapy would be very appropriate for a seven year old, and there's absolutely no reason she's 'too young' to see a child psychologist. Waiting until she's older is an absolutely horrible idea as the longer it's left alone, the more problems she's going to have, and the harder it's going to be for her to deal with what happened and to start to recover form it.
I also have to wonder about the ADHD diagnosis. It may be accurate, but given her history, and the lack of competent psychological evaluation, I'd wonder about depression and/or PTSD. In that case, therapy would be a better solution that medication. Does the Ritalin help? There's no evidence that long-term use is harmful (actually, one study I read suggested it may even induce lasting neurological changes that partially correct some of the abnormalities that cause ADHD in the first place), and if it helps I'd recommend adding another dose after school to last into the afternoon, but that's of course up to you and your daughter's doctors.
Your daughter needs professional counseling, and it's total crap that the state won't provide it because she's 'not old enough.' There's absolutely no medical justification for that. It's also crap that she doesn't qualify for victims services - she's still a victim regardless of whether or not the abuser understood what he was doing. I'd recommend writing a letter to your local newspaper detailing how the state denied counseling to your daughter because she's 'too young,' even though the vast majority of scientific research on the subject indicates that she should have counseling as soon as possible. No one likes to see sexually abused children slip through the cracks, and the NHS certainly isn't going to like that kind of publicity. But if you do decide to do that, then, for your daughter's sake, you should keep it anonymous - most newspapers would still publish it that way, and her friends and classmates don't need to know what happened to her unless she chooses to tell them.
I'm really surprised that the NHS wouldn't provide counseling. In the US she'd be entitled to a certain amount of free counseling if the abuse was reported to the police, even if no one was ever arrested for it, and the UK is usually a lot better about social services than the US is.
Even though NHS won't pay for counseling, there may be charity organizations that can provide free counseling themselves or even help pay for private counseling. Since I don't know where in the UK you are I can't give you anything specific, but there might be something out there.
Apart from that I don't really know what to tell you. There's no good way to fix it. It usually takes years of professional therapy to regain some level of normalcy after sexual abuse (even for people who are sexually assaulted as adults, let alone abused as children), and even with years of counseling there are almost always lasting effects. I don't really think there's anything I can tell you except keep fighting for proper counseling for your daughter. It's not really something that can be dealt with through self help books and the like.
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First off, I am so sorry for what happened. It's even more terrible for that the person was never truly held responsible. It's horrible. I would 110% seek another psychologist. In my opinion, it is NEVER too Early to seek help...that's why there is such a thing as a child psychologist. I'm afraid if you do "wait it out" she will suffer even more, because like right now you don't know how often she thinks about it or if and when she'll start blaming herself. PLEASE seek a new psychologist.
Long term effects are depression, low self esteem, dysfunctional relationships, little to no trust in the opposite sex, teen pregnancy/promiscuous and the list goes on. However, she can recover from this. It's just how you go about it. Don't dwell on the fact that she's not like her peers....she will pick up on that quickly and start blaming herself, which causes all of the above I mentioned. Don't ever let her feel as though she's "damaged". It's not her fault, and while it's terrible what happened to her, she has all the potential to grow up into a strong woman. Good luck with everything, I'm sure there will be challenges along the way and PS- I think they system sucks and your situation is one of the many reasons why.
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When I was younger I was molested by a neighbor boy and at the time I had no clue what was going on so I didn't tell anyone. I've since moved out of that country, but it still haunts me to think that now he's older and might be doing even WORST things to young girls and getting away with it too. The worst thing you can do is in any way make her feel like SHE did something wrong. It was the man's fault- HE took advantage of HER and she is blameless. Also, don't let her think that she's in any way "dirty". Like, because she has experienced these things or knows these things she is in some way unpure. I hope this helps a bit.
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I'm so sorry about your daughter.My sisters and I were repeatedly sexually abused for years by our stepfather..and my mentally,physically and emotionally abusive mom turned a blind eye and deaf ear to it and still does.I've had chronic depression since I was 9.Along with extreme anger and weight problems and trust issues.I also have very low self esteem...I've attempted to go to counseling but it never works out.I have my own children now and I'm paranoid and afraid for them everyday(even with their own father).Try getting her a child psychologist and start the healing early.I found religion and spirituality at an early age and that's the only thing that keeps me going.She's very lucky to have a mother that loves her and wants to protect and help her.....God bless you.
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Sexual abuse does have a long term effect on children. I'm a witness. I hate older men.i think I'm gay sometimes and i have very bad memories.. i watch everyone and everybody including my husband .and sex is even worse..i hate to be intimate and close to him. Sex is a chore i hate. And the bad part my mother knew it was happening and did nothing to protect me. 2 boyfriends and a step father and she says ill get over it..how can u ,when your whole adult life u remember it like it was yesterday. A lot of resentment builds over the years towards others... but i guess i did get over.
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